Whoever said common interests was the glue that holds a relationship together clearly never read this Facebook study, because apparently too many mutual friends could mean the end…
There’s a lot that Facebook seems to know about us, and most recently it has been revealed that it knows when you’re going to break up.
Because apparently your relationship fate is in the hands of your social circle.
In a new research paper written by Cornell University computer scientist Jon Kleinberg and a senior engineer at Facebook Lars Backstrom, it is revealed that couples who have more friends within the same social circle are more likely to break up.
According to the study, the more mutual friends a couple has, the weaker the relationship.
Using a network measure called dispersion; it discovered that couples with a high dispersion have mutual friends who are not well connected, whilst couples with a low dispersion have mutual friends who are well connected.
The theory implies what our deepest fears have suspected for decades – if you and your partner share the same social circle (low dispersion) then you become too integrated in each other’s lives and therefore the relationship is more likely to end.
So whoever said that dating your friends was a bad idea, clearly knew what they were talking about.
Basically what they’re telling you is that it’s unhealthy to share so many friends and you should probably find some of your own.
And although we appreciate this whole Facebook science stuff, and whilst it might be digitally accurate, can we just argue that most of us have ‘friends’ on Facebook who we don’t actually hang out with. Or, shock horror, some of our friends aren’t on Facebook.
So, if you believe all of this and you want a relationship to last, venture outside your inner circle.
And if you don’t, just go down the pub with your boyfriend and ALL of your mutual friends and stick it to Facebook.